A Love Story

 

TRENT AND ROD

TRENT DEERHORN

Q
Here we are again Trent; only this time the theme is L.O.V.E – you and Rod’s love to be exact. But before Rod, you were previously married three times. Tell us more about those journeys. I’ve numbered them for you to make it easier.

A
Hello again, Tash!  It is lovely to be here again and to be able to share something very personal with your readers.  I should mention that, although I am usually very private about my home life, I am nowhere NEAR as private as Rod tends to be, so the mere fact that he agreed to do this interview says that he really is trusting the process and I am so proud of him for being able to open up and share.  So on to the 3 marriages.  Some people think that I am having my own private competition with Liz Taylor, but I think I still would have quite a ways to go to even come close to her.

 

1.  Marriage number 1 lasted only just over 2 years.  I think that it was a situation where we were actually too young to be committing to a marriage, but felt that marriage was the “logical” next step.  Truthfully, we would likely have done much better had we simply lived together.  I consider this one to be an exercise in life experience as well as perhaps a paying off of some kind of unknown karmic debt…likely for BOTH of us.  It was one of those situations where at the beginning we could not get enough of each other and by the end we could not get out fast enough.  Fortunately there were no children as a result of that marriage, otherwise it would have been much more complicated.

2. Marriage number 2 lasted for 18 years.  In that time we had 2 lovely daughters and I feel that they are likely the primary reason that we had to get together.  The love that we had, however, could not withstand many of the stresses that landed on us in a very short period of time.  Within just a couple of short years we lost both of my parents, one of my sisters, and my mother-in-law.  It almost felt like someone had targeted us with disaster when it came to the health of our family.  Each member who died was taken by some form of cancer, none of which are genetic, so please don’t worry.  But then, after her mother died, we sold our house and moved to the family acreage, with an arrangement to purchase the land from her father but allowing him to still live there for a year.  That year turned into 4 of the hardest years of our marriage.  He was grieving and was not dealing with it and became abusive to her and eventually to myself and our children.  I had to tell him to find another living arrangement, which he did within a week.  I am not blaming him for the destruction of our marriage, but I am acknowledging that his disposition wore us both down.  Then, when I was finally ready to just call it quits, she had a heart attack and I was not feeling comfortable with leaving at that time.  So I waited for her full recovery.  During that wait, I found that I could not ignore the feelings that I had for my future 3rd wife.  But I did not want to be “that guy” who leaves for another woman.  This put me into a very difficult position because the overlap was just naturally flowing and happening.  So within 2 weeks I realized that this other relationship was actually “something” and so I had to follow my heart.  I ended it with my current wife and began divorce proceedings, knowing full well that the next relationship could possibly just blow up in my face, but that I also could not live in misery anymore.  It almost killed me that I was splitting up my children’s family.  But I also knew that their mom and I were not good with each other and that, after several attempts at counselling, nothing was working to make it any better.  So I realized that it was better for my children to come FROM a broken family than it was for them to live WITHIN a broken family.  And I wanted to model to them that if love does not last, and if love is not enough to strengthen the bond and help you through the difficult moments, that it is completely okay to admit that you can now move on and hopefully peacefully go your separate ways.  I am not one who takes relationships lightly.  When I commit to a relationship it is because I am ALL IN, and whenever such a relationship comes to an end it is absolutely devastating.  But I also have come to understand that sometimes in relationships one person loves the other more than that other person loves them back, and honestly I truly believe that this was the case.  Had I felt love coming to me, no one would have been able to get in the way of that.  But I was truly starved and I could feel myself slipping further into depression and moving towards self-harm.  So I decided that it would be much better to end the misery of the relationship and still have my children with a father instead of without.

3.  Marriage number 3 was intense.  We lived together for 5 years and got married towards the end of summer of the 5th year.  For the most part we were happy.  There was friction between my new wife and my daughters and there was some jealousy of my daughters that she experienced (likely because she was the only daughter in a traditional South African Indian family and got doted upon – something I lovingly referred to as the “Indian Princess Syndrome”) and she was not changing her behaviour.  So I decided that my daughters time with dad would be exclusively with dad.  That worked.  In the meantime, my wife was also quite ill with a variety of things such as a heart condition and having survived a stroke before we met and having been a kidney transplant recipient and such.  So her health went up and down and I found myself to be the primary caregiver for someone who was not well at all on a physical level.  In 2010 there was a major health crisis that landed her in ICU for about 10 days.  Once the doctors figured out that it was the common cold virus that was attacking her system she was able to get onto the proper medications.  But that also crashed her kidney that was transplanted, so she went back onto dialysis.  It was a slow recovery.  But she made it through.  In August of 2013 we got married.  I asked her to marry me on Friday and by the next Tuesday we were having a wedding in our back yard.  I know how to move fast and make quick work of arrangements when I want to!  Unfortunately, six weeks later she slipped and fell at work.  She was taken to the hospital, and they discharged her.  So then the most horrible thing happened.  I woke up the next morning to my beautiful wife who was unresponsive.  She was declared dead and my life completely went upside down.  I learned a lot of things through that experience,  one of which is that when someone is suddenly widowed that is the time that some major decisions have to be made, and it is also the worst time in the world to have to make those decisions.  I also gleaned an even deeper understanding of friendship as I had a few friends who were there with me and helped me along the way in a multitude of ways.  I will be forever grateful for them.

 

(Left: Trent Deerhorn – Right: Rod Kaminski)

Q
When did you first start having sexual experiences with men?

A
Hmm.  Rod.  Anything that was before that was fleeting at best and not really acted upon.  Feelings may have been there, but the experiences were not really there.  It’s not like the classic story of “I always knew I was gay but never acted on it” or anything like that.  I don’t even consider myself to be gay.  I have enjoyed the sexual encounters that I have had with wives and girlfriends.  I consider myself more to be “hetero-flexible”…meaning that I am mostly straight, but you know…shit happens.  I remember when Rod and I first realized that this was “something” I called a gay friend of mine and asked him, “What do dudes do?”  His advice was precious.  He said, “Oh, my dear Trent.  Dudes do only what they want to do.  And you don’t have to do anything that you are not comfortable with.”  I found those words were what actually relaxed me enough to simply go for it. And the thing is that when I love someone I do so on a soul level.  So the physical temple that the soul of the other person inhabits is quite irrelevant to me.  I don’t care about things like what gender the person is, what race the person is and so on.  Anything above the age of consent and before the age of death is fine.

[Never the two shall meet!]

Someone once asked me what my 5 year plan was.  I never do those things.  But, I told him that I DO have an exit strategy.  That would be to, at the age of 102, die while being chased around the bedroom post-coital by my 20-something lover, gender non-specific.

[Hahahaha.]

Q
Are you still sexually attracted to women? Do you have a sexual preference? And have you acted on it while being with Rod? Is this something you discuss with Rod?

A
I consider myself to be in a committed and monogamous relationship with Rod, so I would not ever act on anything else that would available.  Yes I can say that I am still sexually attracted to women.  I always have been.  My preference, however, is to have sex with someone who loves me, and that is Rod.  Now, having said that, if we were BOTH attracted to someone else, well, we are mature enough that we would talk about it.  And frankly if we were to decide to act on it we would most likely just view it as sharing with each other as opposed to having to run around behind each others’ backs.  I have found through this relationship that I have an equal attraction to both women and men, but that the heart to heart component is what makes it totally magical.  Rod and I share such a deep connection that it goes way beyond sexual attraction.  It is deeply spiritual and deeply emotional.  The physical attraction is really secondary to that.  But the sex is also absolutely INCREDIBLE because of it.

Q
What did you think of Rod when you first met him?

A
Rod and I first met in 2001 at a drum circle (not one that I was leading but one that a mutual friend was leading).  I was immediately at ease with him.  We share the same sick and twisted sense of humour and we are both incredibly musical.  That was something that made our friendship last for years.  And we also ended up performing in a number of musical presentations along the way.  But what did I think of him?  I guess if memory serves I thought, “Wow!  I like this guy.  I hope that one day we can be friends.”

Q

When was it for you when you came to the awareness that you liked Rod much more than a platonic friend?

A
That came after my 3rd wife died.  There was a period there while in that marriage that Rod and I did not see much of each other.  I missed him terribly but also knew that there are sometimes reasons that friendships distance for a bit.  Yet through that I also knew (perhaps hoped) that one day we would drift back to one another and rekindle our friendship.  And boy, did we ever!

Q
How difficult, if at all, was it for you to tell Rod how you felt about him?

A
Actually, it was not difficult at all.  I just knew that I loved him.  I knew that the form of love had shifted, but I also knew that we were close enough and open enough to talk about it.  So one day when we were cuddling I said to him, “So…the ‘L’ word…” and he smiled and said, “I know.  I do love you.”  At that moment I thought my heart was going to jump right out of my chest.  I thought that we were going to make an agreement that we would not use that word for a certain period of time or something.  We were taking things very slowly and I was not sure if he was ready to address the ‘L’ word.  But then BOOM!

Q
How do you define masculinity in a male same-sex relationship?

A
Well, let me see.  We are both very masculine.  Yet we both also are comfortable with our feminine energies.  So I guess the best way to describe it for US is “harmonious” and “balanced”.  We honour each other very deeply and we can also challenge each other to grow and expand.  And most of all we know that we will always have each others’ backs.

In 2014 I had a kidney stone event.  I ended up in the emergency room for the second time in 2 days.  They pushed fluids in hopes that the stone would pass.  He was there with me constantly.  My best friend was also there and she was the one who would run out to get coffee etc and act as a support.  During one of her trips out I suddenly became extremely cold.  I told Rod that I needed some blankets and he went to get them.  He returned with them and I was freezing within and my body was shaking all over.  I could feel something was shifting drastically and I told him to get the doctor.  The doctor came with a nurse, and the nurse could not administer meds because I was shaking so hard that she couldn’t get a needle in me.  She couldn’t even take my blood pressure.  The doctor said that she thought that this was a symptom of the stone beginning to move.  I looked at Rod and said, “It’s gonna be okay,” because I could see the concern on his face.  Suddenly I was in full out convulsions.  I lost consciousness but just before I did I said to myself, “Did I just lie to Rod???  AM I going to be okay???  Holy Shit!!!”  That is the last thing I remember before waking up somewhere between a half hour and an hour later.  When I opened my eyes I was him sitting in a chair beside the bed.  I thought to myself, “OMG!  He is STILL HERE!  He didn’t RUN!”

 

Since then we have had conversations about the fact that my previous relationships were such that when I was ill I was either ignored or criticized for being weak.  That pattern began with my father who thought that all my life-threatening allergies were just “in my head” and carried on into my 3 marriages.  So the fact that I have been in a very frightening situation with my health and he stayed with me and would not leave…that spoke VOLUMES to me about how much he actually cares.

[What a total sweetheart, bless him.]

Q
Last year in 2017, we had discussed that Saskatchewan isn’t the most tolerant of places to live in for people who don’t identify as “strict” heterosexuals. The legalisation of same-sex marriage happened in Canada on the 20 July 2005.

How does this intolerance, despite legalisation, manifest itself in your day to day life with Rod?

A
In a way, it doesn’t affect us personally.  In a way it does.  So we are very careful about things like public displays of affection.  We should not have to be, but we are and we really don’t want to be targeted.  (So why are we doing this interview, you may ask?  Well…because the people who would take exception to our relationship are most likely not going to be reading this interview).  We don’t hide who we are, but we are also private.  So the likelihood of us offending others is minimal.  Yet there is still hate crime that goes on in our community.

People (both gay and straight) are often physically attacked coming out of a local LGBTQ night club.  We don’t go there because of that.  Some of the difficulties we have had with our next door neighbour seems to be very much fuelled by intolerance.  Either that or he is just an asshole.  Fortunately we don’t have to have much to do with him.  I did lose one client when she found out that I was in a same-gender relationship.  I don’t really care about that though because I would rather not have to work with someone who is such a bigot.

I think that doing this interview is one important aspect of it.  The more we talk about the fact that love is love and that gender plays an inconsequential role in the defining love itself, the closer we will get to having a much more understanding world in which we can all live, love and laugh together.  I am not one of those folks who has to march in a Pride parade in order to feel pride or in order to be supportive.  Many of my friends are LGBTQ and we support and care for each other in a variety of ways.  This builds community.  What does NOT build community or understanding is back biting within the community itself.  It is not just straight people who have biases.  Sometimes the worst biases come from those from whom one would expect support.  There are many who don’t “believe in bi-sexuality”…like it requires their belief in order to exist!  That sort of stuff is why I don’t get involved in the organizations that are supposed to promote LGBTQ life.  Too much back biting.  Too much drama.  I would rather cuddle with my partner and watch TV.

[With a cup of tea.]

Q
Hand-holding and kissing in public; is this something you do with Rod? Why or why not?

A
I covered that in the last question, but I would also like to give a bit of a sub-clause to it.  Let’s say we have loaded the groceries into the trunk of the car and we get into the car to leave the supermarket.  At that moment we may lean in and give each other a quick kiss, then be on our way.  That is different than kissing in the aisles of the supermarket itself.  I don’t like when straight people do that, so I don’t do it.

 

 

Truthfully, I think that the cashiers at the supermarket are likely the only strangers who might know that we are a couple…mostly because we are in there once a week for groceries and we jokingly banter with one another as we pack the groceries.  Sometimes (because we are fucking hilarious) we have the cashiers in absolute stitches!  Our banter and joking is always good natured.  We don’t do the stuff that I have seen gay and straight couples do where they tear each other down with cutting humour.  Why on earth, if you love a person, would you ever want to hurt them that way??  It just does not make any sense to me.

Q
What is a soul mate to you?

A
For me, a soul mate could be anybody.  It could even be your worst enemy.  It is someone who comes into your life to push you forward into learning the things that are necessary for your personal and spiritual growth and development.  Yes, it could be a lover.  But it could also be a lover who ends up murdering you.  It could also be your boss at work, or your dental hygienist.

Q
What do you love the most about your relationship with Rod?

A
I think that there are a number of things that I love most about it.  First off, we GET each other.  We have both had a few relationships along the way and we have ended up here, with each other.  We also have the same kind of non-PC, sick and twisted humour.  We keep each other laughing so hard at times that tears come to our eyes.  We really are quite embarrassing for our kids who live with us!  We have a flow with one another.  We read each other’s Q’s very well.  We openly talk about ANYTHING.  We are not afraid to say, “Honey, I need more lube”.  We don’t keep secrets from each other because we really have nothing to fear.  And now that I have said that, I can think of a couple of things that I may not have yet shared with him…mostly because it just never came up in conversation…so, Babe, we should have a wee little talk.  LOL

[“Honey, I need more lube.” Great movie title.]

 

Q
How would you describe the power dynamics in your relationship?

A
Well…we tend to empower each other.  It is not like one person is more in control and the other is more submissive or anything like that.  I used to joke that “You might be on top, but I am still in charge” but none of that actually is important.  We are balanced alpha males.  Now…when something royally pisses us off (and that is not either of us, but usually something someone else has done) we can both get rather EE-gressive in our responses.  We joke that he becomes a rabid Chihuahua and I become a rabid Doberman.  One of us is scary enough, but if you piss us BOTH off…LOOK OUT.

In general though, we do tend to discuss stuff and not make very many assumptions.  As well as we know each other, I don’t necessarily know, for example, if he would prefer blue bed sheets over cream coloured bed sheets.  I would ask him.  And the same goes the other direction.”Would you prefer coffee or tea?”  This I ask him because he switches.  He rarely has to ask me because I take my coffee very seriously.

Q
Name something that causes friction in your relationship and how do you try to resolve it?

A
Well…let me think…(I am not going to make another lube joke here…just in case you were wondering and that was causing friction for you…LOL)  Oops…I guess I just did.
I guess if we are working on a home project or something and it goes over budget that causes internal friction for Rod.  He is pretty good about expressing the stress and resolving it within himself, though, so I can’t say that it has been anything ongoing or even long lasting in the moment.

Ok!  I’ve got one!  Technology.  I love tech when it is easy to work with.  But I can majorly fly off the handle when something is NOT working well.  I have no patience for shitty apps or for websites that are not user friendly.  And I voice it.  Loudly.  He uses humour to bring me back to earth.  It works every time.  But he usually let’s me vent just a bit first.  He knows to step in when I pick up the iPad (or whatever device it is) and start aiming toward the wall or window.  He actually tries to get to me BEFORE that happens.  So when he is not around (at work or something) our technology is definitely at serious risk!

Q
Domestic life with Rod – who cooks, who cleans and who takes the garbage out?

A
Well now.  We both cook.  He is a licensed cook.  I am an intuitive cook.  We both cook extremely well and we work in the kitchen together extremely well.  No one will ever go hungry in our home.  Rod I think is the more consistent cook.  I would say that I am more of the spontaneous type of cook.  I will, out of the blue, spend a morning cooking and baking.  Then NOTHING for the next week or two.  I like to make meals that can then be split up and frozen for lunches and such.  Holiday cooking is usually shared between us.  I have never had such a delicious turkey dinner as the one that Rod makes.  I would do things like vegetables and mashed potatoes and he does the Turkey and stuffing.  I make the gravy.  I usually also make the desert.  I would say that I do 95% of the cleaning and laundry.  He does 95% of the taking out of the garbage and recyclables.  I would also say that our two grown kids DON’T take out the garbage 95% of the time, nor do they clean anything without being constantly reminded and nagged about it.  And when they DO…I seriously have to ask them who they are and what they did with the soul of the body they are inhabiting?  But I do appreciate when they do clean.

Q
How do you spice things up to keep your love alive?

A
I like to stop and give him deep passionate kisses for no reason whatsoever.  I was very distressed the one time he left for work and we did not kiss each other goodbye or tell each other that we love one another.  We have made sure that this type of thing does not reoccur.  You see, I had a neighbour whose husband left for a trip while she was working.  He died on that trip.  She said that the worst thing was that they did not get a chance to tell each other they loved each other before he died.  I decided that this was something that I wanted to always make sure was expressed.  So we tell each other often.  He likes to remind me often how much I mean to him.  The feeling is quite mutual, by the way.

[Tear and swipe.]

Q
Do you and Rod have a favourite song, if so what is it?

A
It is one we wrote together.  It is called “When We Touch”.

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Q
 
Finish this sentence, Love is —-more intimate than it is intense, it is more compassionate than it is judgmental, it is more passionate than it is reasonable, it is more reasonable than it is possessive.  Love is seeing yourself in the other person and knowing that what matters to them is something that deeply affects both of you.  Love is a deep connection that spans time and space and allows us to find one another against all odds.  Love is free…free to give and free to accept.

ROD KAMINSKI

I was born in a small Canadian prairie town, Saskatoon, Saskatchewan,  on October 31, 1965. Being an empath and really shy in my early years, grade school was difficult and awkward. Then in grade eight I discovered something that saved me on so many levels. MUSIC! I only knew three guitar chords but they were a launching pad for me. For the next twenty years, music provided much enjoyment and fulfillment but everything slowed down with music when I got married and had children in the early 1990’s. At this time I was training to be a Journeymen Red Seal Cook and went to business college.

In 2006 I realized my dream of recording an album of original songs that was called
“ Tunnel of Love”. I was getting tired of foodservice and needed a change. For the last ten years I have been working for the city as a para-transit operator, which I love. We transport the elderly, wheel chair clients or anyone else who has special transportation requirements. After being with my ex-wife for seventeen years, we split in 2008 and divorced in 2012. I did on-line dating until I re-connected with Trent in late 2013 . More recently my passion for music has been reignited with the formation of our new musical group called Trodka. A perfect trio consisting of my life partner and one of my closest friends! Life can’t get any better!!!!!!

[That sounds like the markings of a great collaboration.]

Q
How did you first meet Trent?

A
At this point in my life I was on a spiritual path looking for answers that my Catholic up- bringing could not provide for me. I joke now that I am a “ recovering catholic “ LoI. I was happily married for ten years at this point and had two young children. My wife was not interested in any of my spiritual stuff, so I would go to events and things by myself. I met Trent at a friend’s drumming circle in 2001. The first thing I noticed about this Shaman was that he was not aboriginal, and his laugh was contagious. ( oh and he had this sexy thing going on ! ) There was an inner knowing that this man was important to me and that he would have an profound influence/effect on my life. Ironically it took twelve years for everything to fall in place for it to be the right time for Trent and I to come together. Some things are sure worth the wait!

Q
When did you realise that you liked Trent more than just a friend?

A
After we became friends, I would experience a rush of energy up my spine when I thought about him. This would happen occasionally and at that time, I thought it was my kundalini energy that was surfacing. But what I was confusing with kundalini energy was LOVE. Back then I didn’t have the conscience awareness of knowing the difference between the two. Ten years later after Trent’s third wife passed away, we started to re-connect and I did something that was a bit out of character for me, I asked him out!
(remember I am an introvert). This was also about the time where I started to realize that what I was feeling was love ! (it always had been love!)

[Love is love.]

Q
Before Trent had you ever been sexually active with men before?

A
After my wife and I split in 2008 I started on-line dating in 2009. It was not my intention, but in the next few years I ended up dating an assortment of people which included age appropriate women, a woman who was 18 years younger and a woman who was 17 years older than me. Also I did try to date men but found a lot of them to be insecure or even a little afraid of the dating scene. I did meet a couple of men for coffee but something didn’t feel right and at that time I was alright with the concept of not fully exploring my sexuality.

Q
Were you with men when you were previously married?

A
No I was not with men when I was married as I am a prototypical Scorpio who is monogamous by nature (yes quite boring but a lot less drama though ! Lol) So even though I knew I was bi-sexual, I didn’t feel a need to act on it because I was committed to my marriage.

Q
How did/does your previous relationship with your then wife affect your relationship with Trent?

A
I choose to look back at my marriage as a positive experience but there were elements that were lacking which I needed in order to feed my soul. Sometimes you need to go through an experience to know what you don’t want in a relationship. My previous marriage gave me the insight in setting a STANDARD when it came to the quality of relationship that I deserved and wanted. And boy oh boy did I get my perfect partner and more!

Q
What is the power dynamic in the relationship?

A
This was a hard question to answer, as I never thought about the power dynamic in our relationship because in some ways it seems like we don’t have any. Well we do have some, but ours is fluid. Trent and I are so connected that we naturally will fill the role that each of us requires at that time. Sometimes I lead and he supports and then I do the same for him at the appropriate time. Also, in certain instances we can both end up leading together. What is beautiful is that we never have to communicate to ourselves about the roles we choose. They are chosen organically on a deeper level with complete trust and faith . It just flows naturally.

Q

What do you love the most about Trent?

A
I hear couples say all the time that they accept their partner for who they are, but rarely do I see that put into action on an everyday basis. Trent truly accepts every part of me for who I am and not just on the surface, but deep down to the core of who I am. Trent loves seeing me blossom at my own rate and in my own time. Albeit in different ways, we are both growing and expanding our conscientious at the same time. Riding a wave together. I can only describe it as an enormous freedom that is exquisite and profound.

Q
What annoys you the most about Trent how do you resolve it?

A
We have small issues like any other couple. But what we do when a gap is created (through a disagreement or other issues) is that we make sure that an attempt is made to narrow that gap and do our absolute best to not let it get bigger. This can be done by communicating, or the simple act of stepping out of the way for a while to allow the other person to process till the person is ready to partake in meaningful dialogue.

Q
Hand-holding and kissing in public; is this something you do with Trent? Why or why not?

A
In Canada where it seems like things are better with LGBT issues compared to a lot of other places, that is true. But bigotry still exists here on some levels and one has to discern where it is safe to have public displays of affection. Trent and I are ok with that because that is the only limitation we have on our relationship right now. We are truly grateful for what we have and for now we will have to settle for a relationship that is 99.98 % perfect! Once we can kiss in public, then we are looking at 100% baby !!!!! Lol

[Two men and a baby, love it.]

Q
Domestic life with Trent – who cooks, who cleans and who takes the garbage out?

A
We share the duties around the house but we both have stuff we like to do more than the other person where our natural skills and abilities come into play. For example, I enjoy fixing , renovating around the house because I enjoy the process. If a spiritual entity is flying around loose, the last person to call is me ! Lol. That is where it is good to have a shaman in the house!

[Yes – I can see you banging on some bowl and yelling out to Trent!]

Q

Who is the better host? Cook?

A
Better host????? Trent is an extrovert and I am an introvert who is learning to be more sociable lol. Trent is a great host because of his wisdom/charisma and his innate ability to understand the human equation. Trent loves to decorate the house in a beautiful fashion and when people come over they feel the energies (of our sacred space) like a warm blanket on a cold winter night. I tend to do a little more cooking only because I have experience as a journeyman cook and I am regaining my passion for cooking. Trent is a great cook and it’s always good to be pampered.

Q
How do you spice things up to keep your love alive?

A
When you feel so safe and secure in a relationship, it’s easy to want to step out of your comfort  zone and try some new experiences. With us there is no pressure, judgment or expectations regardless of the outcome. We keep our love alive by taking what works, incorporating it and setting aside what didn’t work. So if you envision our love like a canvass, we literally have an infinite amount of colours to choose from and an plethora of ways to use them.

Finish this sentence, Love is … alive , beautiful , in me, in my partner, in everything I see.

Trent and Rod what a beautiful loving couple you are! What is planned for 2018 for the both of you?

ROD: Trodka is a trinity union among three souls who are deeply connected. 2018 will be a year of building our group up to where we can influence people on a heart level through gorgeous melodies and three part harmonies.

TRENT:  2018 is going to be an amazing year.  I have a few work projects that I am developing, some classes that I am going to be teaching and some workshops that I am planning on presenting.  We have our trio, TRODKA, which is something that flows so incredibly well.  Beautiful music tends to touch the hearts and souls of people everywhere.  Our debut performance is coming up on the 14th of February, the Love Day.  It is part of the World Sound Healing Day event that is world-wide.  Another friend of mine, Katherine Dempsey, and myself have planned an evening of sound healing, song, poetry, story-telling and the TRODKA Trio!  It is going to be fantastic!